Songwriting as Self Care

by Krylyn on November 10, 2011

You know when you do something over and over because it makes you feel good, helps calm you down, connects you with your inner wisdom (or Spirit some might say), allows you to express yourself fully and without limitation, and is something you are so passionate about, you light up ever time you think about it, talk about it, and do it? Aren’t THOSE the things we really live for?

For me, that THING is songwriting. Sure, I have lots of other interests and things that give me the same (or similar) benefits. But songwriting is my first true love and one that’s always there for me, no matter what.

While it took me a really long time to be able to express WHAT songwriting does for me, I’ve certainly enjoyed the benefits for a really long time. But it was only recently that I connected how songwriting has been my own form of self care since I was a teenager.

To help illustrate what I’m talking about, let me also define what I mean by self care. Self care is the process by which we take care of our mind, body, and spirit. It encompasses not only the relationship we have with ourselves, but with everyone and everything around us. Self care is the process of making decisions about how we treat ourselves on a consistent basis. It’s also fluid, meaning that it changes continuously. As we become more in touch with ourselves and get more information about our health, our choices can change. And the goal isn’t perfection, it’s consistency. Here’s some examples of good and poor self care choices.

Good Self Care Poor Self Care
  • Eating when you’re hungry
  • Eating when you’re frustrated or angry
  • Resting when you’re tired
  • Working and pushing yourself despite fatigue
  • Writing a song to express yourself
  • Avoiding self expression

I challenge you to identify (if you haven’t already) what self care means to you and what activities you do that allow you to take good care of yourself. Feel free to share your thoughts by leaving a comment below.


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